Ten Tips to Spice Up Your Sex Life
When a sexual relationship is new and fresh, it can seem amazingly passionate and exciting. However, when you've been with your partner for a while, it can take a little extra effort to keep the fires of passion burning.
Of course, sex isn't everything in a romantic relationship. Nevertheless, it can still be important. That's why it's wise not to get complacent about your sex life, especially if you've been with your significant other for a while. Do you generally have sex in the same position? Do you always do it on the same bed? If so, things can begin to feel stale quite quickly. If things become too boring, you and your partner may begin to feel less attracted to each other. This could spell trouble for your relationship.
What should you do if your sex life has begun to feel a bit routine? Here are ten ideas for spicing up your sex life to protect your romantic relationship:
Sometimes people are afraid to ask for what they really want from their partner sexually. It can be hard to articulate your deepest fantasy for fear of being judged, or even of offending your partner. This is particularly true of sexual fantasies that are considered a bit taboo.
Provided your sexual fantasies are legal and you trust your partner, perhaps you should consider mentioning them. If you never find the courage to discuss your true sexual fantasies, how will you know what your partner is willing to try? It could be that your significant other has a few fantasies of their own. Maybe they'll tell you more about what they really want if you reveal your fantasies first.
2. Dress To Impress
You might not think that the undergarments that you wear are all that important. However, your underwear is more significant than you think when it comes to keeping your partner interested. If you can afford it, invest in attractive, good quality underwear regularly.
If your budget is limited, you should still buy new underwear when you can. Simply wait for sales, and buy your underwear in stores that sell cheaper brands. The hard truth is that underwear that has seen better days doesn't help anyone look and feel their best.
Of course, some shops specialize in underwear and lingerie. If you want to add extra sexiness, it's a good idea to shop for sexy underwear with your partner. That way, you both get to anticipate seeing each other wearing the items. Thus, the excitement can build up.
Have you ever considered using sex toys with your partner? If not, you should search the internet for sex toys today. You'll find the quantity and variation of sex toys available on the market today is staggering. Basically, the internet has everything you could conceive of when it comes to products that aid sexual gratification. You can find anything from flavored lubricants to double-ended dildos.
Once again, remember to share the excitement of shopping for sex toys and related products with your significant other. The entire process will be more exciting if both partners are involved in the purchasing decisions.
4. Romantic Getaways
If your budget will allow it, try booking the occasional romantic break with your partner. Romantic getaways are a good idea for any couple that is interested in adding more excitement to their sex life. A change in setting combined with the opportunity to relax and rekindle the intimacy between the two of you can do wonders.
Remember that romantic breaks needn't cost a great deal of money. If you felt so inclined, you could always go camping together. Perhaps you could even make love under the stars somewhere. Obviously, if you do this, make sure you're somewhere secluded. Don't have sex outdoors anywhere near campsites and camping trails. Many places still have indecency laws.
If you can't afford to get away for a break, there are other ways to have a change of scenery. For example, you could have sex anywhere in the house when nobody else is at home. It doesn't always have to take place in the bedroom. If you wanted to, you could even put up a tent in your yard, and do it there.
Many couples who have been together for a while forget to set aside quality time for each other. This is particularly true for couples with children. Try to ensure that you and your partner have regular date nights. Did you go out to dinner, see movies, and visit comedy clubs when you first got together? If so, try to take the time to do those things now. Having a child-free date together just once a month can do a lot to help rekindle the passion in your relationship.
Spending too much time together can stifle the passion in a romantic relationship. Some couples are facing relationship issues because they both work from home. If you live together and both work from home, it might mean you aren't spending enough time apart.
It's healthy to have hobbies and interests that you don't share with your partner. It's good for both of you to do your own thing once in a while, and spend time apart. This is especially true if you live and work in the same house. If you never spend any time away from your partner, they won't get a chance to miss you, and vice versa. If you never miss each other, you may eventually take each other for granted in all ways, not just sexually.
7. Sexy Messages And Photographs
Don't underestimate the power of sending sexy messages and photographs to each other. You don't have to send anything X-rated unless you're comfortable doing so. However, you shouldn't stop flirting with your significant other just because you've been with them for a considerable amount of time.
Have you stopped flirting with your partner? Why not start with a sexy message? If you're unsure what to write, remember it doesn't have to be anything to elaborate. Something short, sweet, and sexy will likely be more impactful anyway. Deliberate flirting can do a lot to keep the attraction alive between couples in long-term relationships.
8. Food Fun
Have you ever considered introducing a little food play into your sex life? Many couples find food play during sex very erotic. Food play involves eating various things from different parts of each other's bodies. Food products such as fruit, syrup, and whipped cream are generally popular when it comes to this type of sexual adventure.
Role-playing is something else couples can do together to keep their sex life fresh. Role-playing involves dressing up and acting a part. For example, some couples might like to dress up as a doctor and a nurse, while others might play the role of boss and secretary. Some couples even meet up in a bar and pretend to be strangers when they want to perk up their sex lives. The only limit when it comes to role-playing is the imagination. You can pretend to be anyone or anything you like.
10. Varying Your Positions
Do you often have the same sexual routine? For example, suppose you always start with a bit of oral sex and then finish off in the missionary position. How long would it take for that to get a bit boring for one or both of you? Try to vary the kinds of sex you have. Doing something you don't generally do now and again can add an element of surprise to your sex life.
Remember that you needn't include anything you dislike when you attempt new things. You should always feel comfortable about anything sexual that you do with your partner. What's more, a good partner won't pressure you into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Have Fun Trying Out These Tips
Sex should ideally be fun, exciting, and recreational. While it's normal for your sex life to change with time, it should still be something that both you and your significant other look forward to and enjoy. Trying out some of the tips in this article should help you to restore the same sense of wonder and excitement that you had when you were younger and sexual experiences still felt fresh and new.