Sex is what you make of it. Sex can be an elaborate fantasy, a way of stress relief, a moment of passion, an intimate occasion alone, and much more. In your mind, sex can be anything you want it to be. All your wildest fantasies can come true, but it’s important to realize that difference between reality and fantasy. Much like the world of porn, your ultimate fantasy may not ever come to being truth. There are many aspects of porn that have affected the way we expect real sex to be.

There are so many dimensions of porn that skew the way we perceive sex:

• How big a penis should be
• How shaved someone should be
• How long a man should last
• How loud a women should be
• How easily a women should cum just from penetration

Those are only a few of the things that porn has caused us to question when it comes to real sex. The fact of the matter is that we have to remind ourselves that just like any other film, porn is an over-dramatization of real life. The women and men in porn do things that most people would not do nor would consider doing. Porn stars are paid to put on a show and to turn us on in every way possible. But the truth is that it’s a fantasy. It’s not real.

Look at it from the perspective of romantic movies. Women get lost in these films and think that that is how love should be, and then are very much disappointed when they find out that Ryan Gosling isn’t running to them in the rain pronouncing his love. What is on the screen is not reality; porn is not reality. Not many women are going to love, grunt, moan, and scream at the fact that you’re ramming them from behind and then cuming on their face. And not many men are going to ravage you like James Deen.

Porn seems to make real sex seem like really lame sex, but it’s just the reality of the world. There are things in life that won’t meet your expectations. Things like:

1. Foreplay

Porn Sex: women in porn don’t need foreplay, they’re ready to go! They can go from 0 to full penetration without any sort of proper lubrication.

Real Sex: women need to build up to that moment. Foreplay is essential to getting a woman ready for penetration. Making out, playing with breasts and nipples, kissing, biting, all this is necessary to get a woman fully turned on.

2. Body hair

Porn Sex: no hair

Real Sex: hair

3. Giving a Blowjob

Porn Sex: they love it so much, taking in every inch. Pretty much getting mouth-banged and gagged until the man is satisfied.

Real Sex: hundreds of questions going through a woman’s mind. Am I doing this right? How much longer do I have to do this? I can’t breathe…

4. Swallowing & Facials

Porn Sex: cum everywhere, porn stars love cum and think it tastes so good…wish they could have it every night for dessert.

Real Sex: I’ll swallow if it means it’s off of my face or my clean sheets…

5. Anal Sex

Porn Sex: such an intense sense of satisfaction when my butthole is being reamed

Real Sex: OW OUCH OUCH! OMG OW. Am I pooping? Am I pooping on a dick right now?

6. Having an Orgasm

Porn Sex: the sexiest, loudest, hottest, biggest, most amazing orgasm you’ve ever heard

Real Sex: *flops around, makes weird faces*

If we all come to terms with the fact that real sex isn’t as intense or dirty as porn makes it out to be, our sex lives might even be better due to the fact that we don’t have these high expectations of what a sex session should be like. Porn is there to entertain and turn us on, but remember to enjoy sex for what it is - a pleasurable experience that needn’t be compared to any scripted film.

Check out this amazing video by KBCreativeLab that really puts Porn Sex vs Real Sex into perspective: